Chesterfield man charged with murder was scared of losing wife, pastor says

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CHESTERFIELD COUNTY, Va. -- He called his son and said, "I can't believe I shot my wife,” and then 42-year-old Corey Bowden turned himself in to police.

Bowden's pastor, Robert Pettis, Sr, said that Bowden had been struggling with a relationship that was heading south.

Bowden is a martial arts instructor, a respected barber, and --  his pastor says -- a husband who reached out to him, when his world started to crumble about six months ago.

"He had a great love for his wife,” said Pettis. “They were having problems, but there were things he couldn't turn loose and he feared rejection."

After making that call to his son Thursday morning, Chesterfield Police say Bowden drove himself to a police station.

Later, as forensic officers and detectives collected evidence at the Bowdens’ Summerbrooke Drive home, police say 27-year-old Delesha Bowden died from her injuries at VCU Medical Center.

"I think he thought he was being terminally rejected," said Pettis.

Pettis says he did all he could to counsel Bowden, and while he knew he was struggling, he never thought this day would come.

"I gave him a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on,” Pettis said.  “A minute for attention."

Delesha Bowden's sister says the two had been married for a while.  His pastor believes it was close to eight years, and Pettis said the looming separation and possible divorce was Bowden's breaking point.

"It weighed on him quite heavily,” Pettis said. “He didn't want to give up on the relationship and wanted to be in her life. He says he was showing her that he could change given that he said his past had some domestic violence that he regretted."

The shooting happened at about 12:30 a.m. Police forensic units remained on scene some six hours later, focusing mostly on an upstairs room with the light on.

Multiple neighbors said they never noticed any problems at the house.

A “For Sale” sign was posted a few days ago, according to neighbors.  Online property records indicate the home was purchased in 2008.

Pettis says Bowden was supposed to attend a church teacher certification course this weekend for youth, but Instead he will remain behind bars, charged with murder.

Bowden asked the judge if he could post bond to take his 16-year-old son to Maryland.  The judge denied the request.

27 comments

  • Chester mom

    Wow this man used to cut my boys hair off Hopkins, I would’ve never thought this man would be capable of doing such a horrible act.

  • manalishi

    “I can’t believe I shot my wife,” Would this be denial, or a reality check?
    “He didn’t want to give up on the relationship and wanted to be in her life.” Liberal logic at it’s best.
    He says he was showing her that he could change given that he said his past had some domestic violence that he regretted.” More liberal logic and the fundamentals of such.
    ” supposed to attend a church teacher certification course this weekend for youth,” Are you s**tting me?!?!
    “Bowden asked the judge if he could post bond to take his 16-year-old son to Maryland.” This animal’s level of stupid has no boundaries or limitations.
    “he feared rejection.” Drama queens abound.

    All we can do is pray for the family and squander our tax $ to house, cloth and feed some s**t that should be hung from a light pole.

  • guest13579

    I really don’t understand this mentality of “if I can’t have them, no one else can either.” Being so weak and having so little self esteem that you would rather kill your significant other and spend the rest of your life in jail than go through a breakup. If someone doesn’t want to be with you — then just move on and find someone who does.

  • Spartan

    It isn’t about love or their relationship, it is about control. She was leaving, he couldn’t control that, so he did the only thing he could do to prevent her from leaving. He shot her. Now she can’t leave.

  • Paula

    Sammy this is not a joking matter. Stop showing how heartless you are. Would you make a joke if this was a member of your family?

  • spaz1960

    This guy is a selfish and ignorant excuse for a man. He will now spend many years in prison and never have a chance to work things out with his wife, and he has caused much pain to two families and likely many friends. Off with his head!

    • manalishi

      “Off with his head!” Spoken like a real patriot It’s a crime against the people to feed, clothe, and house this P.O.S. while others have real needs.

      • youngchipper

        F you folks that are ready to judge without knowing all the facts of this case. This guy gave free lessons to the public school system and police dept. He paid his taxes, had 2 jobs , took care of his family. But some how lost his way. Find yours !

  • youngchipper

    When little Timmy in Denver, Idaho, Kentucky etc f some people up, you cry and say it is so tragic. Yet we put the gun in Timmy hand and say its OK to shoot. F you with the negative comments about this man and find a life of your own. You probably can’t even take care of your own wife and kids, better yet a job. Oh! Did I hurt your feelings f you!

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