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A woman posted a spreadsheet to Reddit that was sent by her husband, documenting the reasons she gave for not having sex with him.

“My husband [M26] sent me [F26] an immature, inflammatory email as I was driving to the airport for a 10-day work trip,” she posted on the site. “Now he has cut contact.”

The excuses listed included, “You’re too drunk,” I”m watching the show (Friends re-run),” and “I’m sweaty and gross..”

After receiving the email, his wife tried contacting him but couldn’t, so she wrote on Reddit: “Husband sends a message to my work email … he’s never done this, we always communicate in person or by text.

“I open it up and it’s a sarcastic diatribe basically saying he won’t miss me for the 10 days I’m gone.

“Attached is a spreadsheet of all the times he has tried to initiate sex, with a column for my ‘excuses,’ using verbatim quotes of why I didn’t feel like having sex at that very moment.”

After more than 500 comments were made, the post was locked.

According to the spreadsheet, the man tried to initiate sex every day from June 3 to July 16 — and succeeded three times.

The spreadsheet has since been deleted, but it has been saved thanks to the magical world of the Internet.

Those who commented on the Reddit post seemed to be evenly divided on whose side they were on.


  • Morning Dew

    Many of her excuses are “I feel gross.” Dude needs to romance her. She won’t feel gross if his attention is on making her feel relaxed and pretty.

  • thisordinarylife

    Maybe he should stop asking her when her shows on. Or when she’s just out the gym, or just in from work or maybe she wasn’t feeling good, god forbid! Dude should learn how to pick his moments and maybe make her feel sexy or good about herself. Woo her for gods sake.

  • mbaker9105

    Actually it did seem to turn into a pestering match, which probably aggravated the situation, not sure why he kept feeling the need to pester her almost EVERY DAY and then document it…..not much of a plan….Sit down and discuss it like adults, realize pestering doesn’t help, and if you are that addicted do yourself and her a favor if you’re both that far off on your needs and take care of your own business. She’ll probably be a little happier for the break. And if he really felt the need to send her this and take it to a different level, I would also have messaged her “no worries, you can’t cut me off if you don’t know where I’m getting it” :)

  • bpgagirl22vanow

    If I were a different kind of woman! um um um um um! Bet he’s gonna be glad he’s not married to Lorena Bobbitt! LOL

  • Maria Sosa

    She’s gross if she’s going to the gym and not showering until the next day. Who’d want anything to do with that nastiness. Yuck!

    • Lisa

      I was thinking the opposite – he should dump her. I can’t imagine turning my hubby down unless I am feeling sick, or in a REALLY bad mood.

      • dee

        Thank you Lisa…we are sexual beings naturally. And when I say we, I mean men and women. That is the 3rd most important thing in a marriage. 1st is passion and commitment, 2nd is family, 3rd is our sexual desire for each other.

    • dee

      Romance is a fairy tale. Real life is passion and commitment to each other. “Romance” comes naturally after that.

  • emberfox

    This probably won’t help the cause, dude. I agree with the above comments; asking her EVERYDAY? Why don’t you take her to dinner? That way she won’t feel “gross” or she won’t be watching her show… But on the other hand, why is she saying no so often? Seems like something is fundamentally off in this relationship.

  • MrScorpio1967

    This is why u always have a go to girl so when the wife or girlfriend ain’t giving it up the go to girl will !!!

  • Jackson

    When did this become news? Let’s focus on starving children, political discrepensies, and other more real world topics. Not some childish couple’s reddit post.

  • dee

    Just like it’s the man’s responsibility to romance his wife, it’s her responsibility to keep him happy. Wow!!! Since when did marriage become so one sided. They are both in it together. They both have to make time and an effort to have passion…don’t bother asking why he/she cheated on me. The answer is obvious. You chose to ignore the signs…

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